Today as per usual I was running late to get to work. It has become my daily struggle really, to get to office as early as I can. If I wake up too early, I will go back to sleep and then get to office late, again T_T
In my bid to beearly not be late (there’s a difference haha), I will decide what to wear and iron my clothes the night before. And half the time it still doesn’t work sigh…
And I wonder why do guys take much much shorter time to get ready than the girls??
Well, obvious answers really. Just this morning it took me forever to apply my eyeliner. And if it’s not eyeliner, it can be my shawl, or my foundation that needs reworked WTH…..
That’s all the rant for today. Have a great Friday everyone!
I have to give a warning before I start this post – It is quite a depressing subject. Don’t say I didn’t warn.
Last week was the National Consultation on Promoting Greater Police Accountability in Malaysia. It was organised by the Bar Council Task Force on Independent Police Complaints and Misconduct Commission (IPCMC), which I am a member of.
I was tasked to present the data and statistics on death in custody, police shootings and cases of police torture. Depressing numbers. For a start, from the year 2001 until 2015 there are over 200 deaths in custody. And although the law makes it mandatory to conduct inquest into these deaths, from 2000 to 2004, there were only 6 inquests out of 80 deaths in custody. It’s sad really. Imagine, if a family member or someone you knew makes up the number, and you are not afforded a closure to the entire traumatic experience.
I gotta admit that I did not have a chance to look at the powerpoint slides I would be presenting. So that morning I was pretty nervous and even asked Malathi (our fantastically able BC Officer who did an excellent job with the slides) for a private room where I could practice. Didn’t have the chance to do that either. I did a quick run through of the slides on my laptop and decided not to rush the presentation. I think it went pretty okay. Leena said I did okay too, and that I set out all relevant facts alright. So, phew…
The Roundtable discussion was, I’d say, quite well attended. We had representatives from EAIC and the courts in attendance as well. Malathi did a wonderful job with the administrative tasks of sending out invites, securing venue, date, etc.
My hope is that this issue and calls for police to take accountability for their misconduct, some of which caused death and untold misery to civilians, will be given more serious thoughts by our authorities and policy makers.
Now for the coming term, we’ll need to think how to advocate the issue to the masses, the people on the ground. It’s not just thinking up ideas really. We need people to be able to carry out the ideas. I hope we could recruit more people passionate about the issue for this coming term.
So last weekend was our firm trip to Krabi. The 2nd one in 5 years hehe. The Organising Team really did one heck of a job from the flights, hotel (we stayed in Holiday Inn – much recommended!), activities, etc. We enjoyed ourselves so much. I know I did. And I made it a point to make the most of the 3 days and 2 nights trip.
Some of us got on the early 7am flight. Had to gather by 5am (yawnnn…). So a few of us decided to use the extra hours we had to do island hopping once we reach Krabi. Loved it! The view of the ocean, little islands in between and the lush greenery is simply breathtaking. We did snorkeling too. Such a shame I couldn’t swim so I had to hold onto Ariel the entire time. Bit scary when the water got into your googles or when the boat seems to sway towards you, but I wouldn’t want to pass a chance to check out the underwater world =)
Us. With sunblock lathered all over our body every 5 seconds haha!
We got back in the afternoon in time to greet the 2nd group arriving and to get our rooms. I was by this time sooo sweaty, sticky, and exhausted. So when they asked to gather I was just lazy to move… and so, they decided to move me instead =___=
The 2 nights we were there, some of us went to Longhorn Saloon for some live music, which was superb by the way. The song selection was awesome, and we sang along and danced to almost every song (even those I don’t know I simply pretended I do haha!)
I took advantage of the comparatively cheap massage parlors and had 2 full body massage on Saturday and Sunday just before we checked out. Had fun at the pool too (which was 1.3 metre high thankfully =P)
The Saturday morning activities were also fun, kudos to the organising team. We definitely leave behind some wonderful memories. I can vouch for that because up until this point we are still relieving and laughing over the trip =D (and the songs they had at Longhorn is my current playlist hehe)
I am definitely considering to come to Krabi again in the future.
April is also a crazy month because it’s my birthday month! Hehe.
But that particular birthday week was also quite crazy. I’m glad I made full use of all the birthday freebies I got. I got meself a free scalp treatment at Number76 (they managed to talk me into doing a paid hair treatment =__=).
Then I got to see movies for freeeee! courtesy of GSC and also MalayMail. The latter I got not because of birthday, but that I retweeted one of their tweets at an opportune time. So I went to watch Zootopia and Eye in the Sky. Both are awesomeee!
I had an afternoon meeting on 20th April. Boss was being kind of coy asking me this and that about the meeting, suggesting we go together and all, and so I just played along lah. Of course they had arranged for a supposed birthday surprise for me back at the office.
After work, I went to have a quiet birthday dinner with Yen Hui and Elaine at Tony Roma’s. Wanted to try Coliseum but it was closed due to some gas leak problem. But Tony Roma’s turned out to be quite good, with very friendly stuff getting us birthday dessert with candle on top, some freebies and a birthday song of course.
It took me about a week to properly reply to all birthday wishes. It was definitely a good birthday =)
April in short is a crazy month. It is! But I kinda love it =)
I am even struggling to find time to write here. For starters, the next weekend after I got back from US, I flew to Sabah with MyConsti team among others for a workshop with persons with disabilities, organised by Human RIghts Committee of the Bar Council. It was quite a good fruitful 2 day workshop I’d say. And I’m very grateful for everyone who volunteered their time to help facilitate the workshop. It wasn’t easy to conduct a workshop for about 70 participants with different disabilities, so we need all the help we can get. We had time to do some shopping, immersed a bit on local culture and watch the sunsets too hehe.
I think we did quite well, because I got to know later that Sarawak lawyers are interested to have us come to Sarawak to conduct similar workshop.
Here are some pictures from the Sabah trip:
And the sunset, ooh I love the sunset! Whoever says sunset anywhere is the same everywhere can go fly kite hmmph!
I am at a mamak shop as I write this, waiting for my dinner. Been waking up at 3am ish ever since I got back from the US. I even Googled “how to beat jet lag” but I guess one has to endure it until it’s gone.
I was in the US for almost a month, traveling from city to city: Washington DC – Baltimore – Manchester – Reno – Detroit – Austin – New York. I learnt so so much, not just about the US judicial & legal system (which was the focus of the program), but about the American people, culture, politics, history, art. It was certainly an eye-opener, on a country I used to only read about in the news or tv shows or the movies.
I also learnt a thing or two from fellow IVLP participants who are from 15 different countries. A good number of them are judges and prosecutors, but their humility and friendliness humble me very much. Respect to the maxx.
There are a lot of take home points from the programme which I intend to blog about separately soon. I should really try to do it soon when it is still fresh on my mind.
Chelsea Market, New York – a market where hipsters unite
I have been wanting to have a blog for quite sometime. Didn’t even remember that I already have a blog site set up, with zero post haha!
I have always been quite active on social media – facebook, twitter and instagram mostly. But each has its own constraints. And sometimes what you need exactly is to lay down thoughts, unfiltered and unrestrained, so that in time when you look back at those thought written down (figuratively), you will be able to reflect better on your actions and words.
We are human after all. To err is human. To change is human too. But change must be for the better. Most times, change scares us. Because that requires us to move out of our comfort zone. I guess you can also say that fear too is human. But change we must. Because only then we can progress.
I strive to make myself useful to others. But in order to do that, one must constantly better oneself, with everything the world has to offer. And that is simply limitless. Boundless. They say, the more you learn, the more you realise how little you know.
Re-posting below from my FB post earlier this year as a self-reminder (which I tweaked from an article in Huffington Post by Brianna Wiest titled “16 Signs of a Socially Intelligent Person”
To not try to elicit a strong emotional response from anyone one is holding a conversation with.
To not speak in definitives about people, politics or ideas.
To not immediately deny criticism, or have such a strong emotional reaction to it that one becomes unapproachable or unchangeable.
To not confuse an opinion of someone for being a fact about that person.
To not overgeneralize other people through their behaviors (like using “you always” or “you never” to illustrate a point.).
To speak with precision.
To know how to practice healthy disassociation.
To not try to inform people of their ignorance.
To validate other people’s feelings.
To recognize that one’s “shadow selves” are the traits, behaviors and patterns that aggravate oneself about others.
To not argue with people who only want to win, not learn.
To listen to hear, not respond.
To not post anything online one would be embarrassed to show to a parent, explain to a child, or have an employer find.
To not consider oneself a judge of what’s true.
To not “poison the well,” or fall for ad hominem fallacy to disprove a point.
That one’s primary relationship is to oneself, and to work on it tirelessly.